Hinduism is the only religion in the world today that gives a clear picture on the cycle of birth, rebirth and the journey of a soul, once the body is dead. The ancient texts share information on exactly what happens after death and answers your questions relating to ghosts, demons, angels etc. Rather than painting a fancy picture, our granth brings clarity on the deeds and misdeeds. It gives us a clear cut view of the consequences a person faces for the bad deeds done in a lifetime.

Even though God has created us, he has given us a free will as well. We are free to do whatever we want. You can either put into action every bad or good thought or control your bad thoughts and work on practicing only the good deeds. The choice is practically yours.

Who is Yama God and Why is he called the Dharmaraj?

After the Sun God married Saranyu (daughter of Tvastr – the celestial artisan), she gave birth to twins who were named – Yama and Yami. Saranyu could not bear the heat and light that came from the Sun God. One day, she placed her shadow named Chaya in place of her to look after the twins and the rest of the duties. For a long period of time, the Sun God was unable to tell the difference between Saranyu and Chaya. This eventually led to Chaya giving birth to her own children from Surya. She also hated the stepchildren and often treated them badly. Yama once struck Chaya when he could not tolerate her misbehavior any longer. This gave away the disguise and the Sun God left in search for his wife. The rest of the story will be told another day!

There are different stories that estimate the reasons behind Yama becoming Yama God (The God of Death). The first story is that – Yami wanted to have children and reached out to Yama with love so she could become a mother. Yama hated the idea of incest and turned away. He asked his sister to seek another man for her desires as he regarded incest as one of the biggest sins.

Yama died without having children and thus became the first Pitr. He found himself trapped in the land of the dead. He did not have any children who could facilitate his rebirth in the land of the living. As he was the first of them all, he was given the task of becoming the God of Death and to direct all souls. It is also said that since Yami mourned for her brother, she became Yamini – the sad lady of the night. She became a part of the nature.

In another version of the story, it is said that when Yama kicked Chaya, his leg got infested with maggots. This act also put a curse on him and made him the God of Death.

On a related note:

For those of you who paid attention to the story of Mahabharata or watched the popular TV shows that narrate the story, you must be well aware that Yuddhishthir (eldest of the Pandava sons), was also called Dharmaraj. Don’t jump to the conclusion that Yuddhisthir is Yama God. Rather he was the son of Yama born from the womb of Kunti (the story of Yama God’s son being named as Pandava son will be discussed another day).

What are the Main Features of the Yama God?

Every God in the Sanatan Dharm has a role to play. As Lord Krishna said, everyone has to perform Karm. The roles and duties of every God are carefully outlined and the code of law is marked out for them to follow. Let’s break down the features and role of this God in a brief way.

Features	Roles
Dark Skinned	Ruler of the Dead – Carries the Soul as soon as it leaves the Body
Divine Mount is Buffalo	Relentless and Monitors the Lifetime of a Soul
Carries a Mace in One Hand that signifies justice	Dispassionate and Gives Fair Judgement
Carries a Noose that is Tied Around a Soul	He brings order and is known as the keeper of the laws of nature
Garland of Flames	Decides the Circumstances of the next life of a soul as per the deeds of the past life

According to the varied readings, you can easily say that Dharmaraj has complete control on his emotions. The internal or external circumstances do not affect him. His duty is to give strict adherence to the laws of the world. He is never seen to be biased towards anyone. The reflection of this conduct can be easily seen in the picturisation of the characteristics of Yudhishthir in the Mahabharata Purana as well.

The Yama God is given the responsibility to keep an account of all the good and bad deeds. He is the ultimate Dharmaraja who walks along with a person throughout his lifetime. Quietly taking note of everything, he gives his judgement upon death alone.

The Yama God as per our Vedas is not like the Devil or Lucifer as described in the Bible. He is not evil. He is just the carrier of the scales of justice and ensuring balance is his job. When a Pitr or a soul has debts to pay from the past lives, he makes sure the payment is done in the next or the next. The cycle goes on until you are debt free. For example, if you are an honest person, you will repay the money you owe to the bank in due time. The nature of deeds is just like the bank and account keeper is Yama God.

Based on the deeds done in a particular life, the Yama God then decides the place, time, circumstances, family, type of body, fortunes and misfortunes etc. that are to be given to a particular soul in the next lifetime (when the time is right).

Can you Escape the Cycle of Karma?

When you are sent back to the Bhuloka by Yama God to balance the scales of deeds and debts, a human being does not carry the memories of the past lives. So, how can one determine whether the debts are paid or which good deed to perform to ensure the scales are balanced for the next life?

Another popular question that I have come across is – If we keep doing new karmas while trying to balance the old ones, is there ever an end to the cycle? You can never escape doing Karma. The following explanation might come of some help here:

Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad Gita –

“कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।
मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि॥”

It means that performing Karma is the duty of every human being. Even if you draw a single breath or eat food, you are performing a Karma. The one thing that separates the good people from the bad is consuming only the amount you absolutely need. When people start knowing the difference between Need and Want that is when nature and the world starts thriving again.

The only way to escape the cycle of karma, birth and rebirth – is to keep your actions in check at all times. Refrain from conducting any bad actions. A description of actions that constitute equities and debts will be explained in another post. Another way of escaping the cycle is meditation, spiritual growth and commitment to enlightenment.

Your Spiritual growth and investment is the only thing that is carried forward by the soul from one birth to another. If you have not embarked on your journey to spiritualism, now is the time!

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Modern Sanatani
June 5, 2026

How to Be a Modern Sanatani: Tradition Meets Transformation

Being a “modern Sanatani” isn’t about retreating into the past or completely abandoning the modern world. Sanatana Dharma translates to the “Eternal Way” or “Eternal Law.” Because it is eternal, its core principles are designed to adapt, fluidly fitting into any century, whether you are living in an ancient ashram or a modern high-tech city.

Being a Sanatani today means filtering timeless wisdom through a modern lens, focusing on personal growth, conscious living, and universal ethics. I say this from personal experience – Since the day I have turned towards being a modern sanatani, my life has taken a very positive turn. It has improved every aspect of my life. I have become more patient, empathetic and loving. Some of the basic ideas that I would like to share are as follows:

1. Shift from Ritual to Philosophy

While rituals are a beautiful part of the culture, a modern Sanatani prioritizes understanding over blind repetition.

Learn the ‘Why’: Don’t just perform a ritual because you were told to. Explore the underlying symbolism. For instance, offering water to the sun (Arghya) isn’t just a religious act; it’s a practice of morning gratitude and aligning your circadian rhythm with nature.
Read the Core Texts: Move past summarized moral stories and dive into the philosophical foundations. Start with the Bhagavad Gita (focusing on its psychology of action and duty), the Upanishads (for deep existential philosophy), or the Yoga Sutras.

2. Practice Karma Yoga in Your Career

The Gita heavily emphasizes Karma Yoga—the yoga of selfless action. In a modern context, this translates to how you approach your day job and daily responsibilities.

Detachment from the Outcome: Focus entirely on the quality of your work, rather than stressing over the praise, promotion, or reward ($Karmanye~vadhikaraste~ma~phaleshu~kadachana$).
Work as an Offering: View your profession—whether you are a programmer, artist, manager, or student—as a form of service (Seva) to society.

**3. Live Consciously (Ahinsa & *Prakriti***)

Sanatana Dharma inherently views the divine in everything—people, animals, plants, and rivers. Embracing this means adopting a highly conscious, eco-friendly lifestyle.

Environmental Stewardship: Reducing plastic use, conservation, and treating nature with reverence is a deeply Sanatani trait.
Mindful Consumption: Practicing Ahinsa (non-injury) extends to what you consume. This is why many Sanatanis choose a vegetarian or plant-based diet, minimizing the footprint of harm left on the planet.

4. Integrate Daily Sadhana (Spiritual Practice)

You don’t need to sit in meditation for hours to be spiritual. A modern lifestyle requires a sustainable, daily routine.

Micro-Meditation: Dedicate just 10 to 15 minutes a morning to breathwork (Pranayama), mantra chanting, or silent meditation to ground yourself before entering the digital chaos.
Digital Fasting: View a break from screens and social media as a modern form of Mauna (silence) to recalibrate your mind.

5. Embrace Inclusivity and Intellectual Freedom

One of the most profound aspects of Sanatana Dharma is that it doesn’t demand rigid dogma or an “us vs. them” mentality.

The Truth is One: The Rig Veda states, “Ekam Sat Vipra Bahudha Vadanti” (Truth is one, the wise call it by many names). A modern Sanatani respects different spiritual paths, recognizing that everyone is climbing the same mountain from different sides.
Keep an Open, Questioning Mind: Hinduism has a rich tradition of debate (Shastrartha). Skepticism and questioning are not sins; they are valid paths to spiritual realization.

The Core Takeaway: Being a modern Sanatani is less about external labels—what you wear or what symbols you display—and entirely about your internal state. It is about striving for emotional balance (Samatvam), acting with integrity (Dharma), and recognizing the shared divine spark in every living being you encounter.

Small actions towards upgrading yourself can take you a long way. The more you read and understand, the more your faith in the Sanatan Dharam shall solidify. I was a non-believer too, but the readings and small practices paved the way for growth that I had not seen coming. It has healed my traumas, wounds and ego. The motivation for practicing comes every day morning when I reflect on the benefits that I have attained over the course of the last few years.

As a Life Coach, whether it’s been giving spiritual guidance or assisting people with healing relationships, I have seen people change and evolve too. They are becoming more tolerant and aware of themselves. Be better every day when you start being honest with yourself! Click on the calendly link to book a free discovery call without any obligations. It’s time to welcome change within yourself and your family circle!

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Modern Sanatani
May 13, 2026

Nagamani: The Mythical Jewel of Serpents and Its Significance

Introduction

To understand the meaning and significance of Nagamani, it is important to first know the sequence of events that led to the birth of the Mani in the first place. As we all know, Brahma’s son Kashyapa had many wives. He procreated with them to give birth to different creatures who later populated the earth and became a significant part of the ecosystem. The majority of them were divine beings in one form or another. Their successors can be seen as less evolved beings even today on earth.

Kadru and Vinata – Mothers of Snakes and Birds

The key players in this story are Kadru and Vinata (sisters) married to Kashyapa. Although they were sisters, they were strong rivals of each other and hated the role of the other one. When it came to having children, Kadru asked for as many children as she could have and demanded that the species should be capable enough to be present on earth and sky both. On the other hand, Vinata asked for only 2 kids but kept a condition that her children should have more power than Kadru’s kids.

While Kadru gave birth to hundreds of snakes, Vinata was given 2 big eggs. The eggs of the snakes hatched pretty fast but Vinata’s eggs were taking more time than she anticipated. Kadru, along with her kids, started making life unbearable for Vinata. Once Vinata lost a bet with Kadru which made her a slave.

Added Information: The bet – Once Kadru and Vinata saw a white divine horse at dawn. Vinata claimed that the tail of the divine horse – Uccaiḥśravas was white as its body but Kadru claimed that the tail was black. The two sisters agreed that whoever lost the bet would become the other’s slave. Kadru asked her black bodied snake sons to entangle themselves in the horse’s tail so that it appeared black from a distance. This led to Kadru winning the bet and Vinata becoming a slave.

Vinata was humiliated by Kadru and her sons everyday. Vinata would keep watching her eggs and hoping for them to hatch soon. One day Vinata lost her patience and forced open one of the eggs (not even a year had passed since the eggs were given to Vinata). From it emerged a half developed child who rose to the heavens abandoning the mother.

Added Information: The half developed child’s name was Aruna. He was radiant and became the charioteer of Surya God. In some other stories, it is said that the child rose up and became dawn.

Vinata realised her mistake and patiently waited for the second egg to hatch. The second egg hatched into one of the most powerful birds on the planet – Garuda.

Garuda – Birth and Boons

From the second egg, a beautiful eagle was born and Vinata named him Garuda. He was born into slavery. Reviewing the situation and desperate to get his mother out of slavery, he asked Kadru and the snakes of their deepest desire so he could get their freedom in exchange. Kadru asked for the nectar of immortality for her sons which was deeply guarded by the Devas in Heaven.

Garuda defeated the Devas and took Amrita in a pot for the Nagas. However, he made a deal with Indra and Vishnu that as soon as Kadru agreed to give freedom to him and his mother, they could take the pot back. Garuda kept the pot on the grass and asked Kadru to give them freedom. As soon as Kadru agreed, Indra and Vishnu took the pot back to Swarga.

Vishnu realised that Garuda had the pot of Amrita but did not try to take it for himself. Instead he took it for the liberation of his mother. His strength and devotion deeply impressed Vishnu. He asked Garuda to become his vehicle for battles and he agreed. With this, Vishnu also asked him to seek other boons.

Garuda asked that he should be allowed to kill Nagas without gaining any negative Karma. The Devas stated that this was only possible if Garuda made Nagas his natural food. Since that day, Nagas have become the primary food source/natural food for eagles and birds.

Nagamani – Meaning, Origination and Significance

From fear of the boons given to Garuda, all the Nagas ran to Patala. This is a realm beneath the earth’s surface. As the Patala Lok does not have any sunshine, the Nagas illuminated the region with the Nagamani and other gems that were found in the deepest caves of the earth or on the hoods of old snakes.

It is said that as a snake would get older, it would get additional heads and with each new head, more gems would also produce. The cycle kept going. It is said that Adi Ananta Shesha opposed Kadru’s way of conducting lives of snakes and her treatment of Vinata. The kindness of Sheshnaag did not go unnoticed and he was given a boon to become the eternal companion and seat for God Vishnu on the sheersagar.

Importance of Nagamanis

When you think about Nagamanis, the first thought that erupts in your mind is wealth, isn’t it? Well, that is true to some extent. It is said that the Puranas associated these manis with several other benefits. Some of these include:

Provides a divine energy with spiritual protection. It drives away evil forces that might harm you or your family members.
Attracts wealth and money in your family.
Brings professional success and growth in your career.
Possesses healing powers and rids the family of any health problems
Folklore also suggests that some gems or nagamanis have the ability to detect poison and change colour when any type of danger surrounds a family.

If you have loved the idea of Nagamanis and would love to explore the idea of spiritual growth and life coaching then it’s time to connect with the right people or start reading more. As you get more information in life, your sense of clarity and dedication shall definitely increase. Explore the world of spirituality with me!

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Modern Sanatani
December 13, 2025

Two Halves of Reality: How Purusha and Prakriti Shape the Universe

What is Purusha and Prakriti?

The Two halves of our reality are Purusha and Prakriti. Which also means Man and Woman. The idea of two beings has always been present in our system. In order to balance the scale of our world, God/Brahma created two beings that were expected to drive the world. According to the Upanishads, in the start of the world, the Purusha existed. As he started feeling lonely, he divided himself into two and the second part was known as the Prakriti.

Prakriti is the second half of the Purusha. The translation of Purusha is Man/Culture and the translation of Prakriti is Woman/Nature. In the Hindu system/society, we have always seen a patriarchal world where the drivers of rules and regulations are majorly men. The women are seen as the receiver of the laws and the executionists through their code of conduct. They become the example of the rules that are set forth.

The ancient texts like Vedas and Upanishads were not concentrated on explaining the society rules, gender ideologies or social problems. It was majorly focused on the metaphysical world and the two halves were used as a medium to explain the working of the universe and the system as a whole. It also explains the reason why the world was created in the first place.

Features of Purusha and Prakriti

In the above sections, we did a brief description of the concepts of Purusha and Prakriti. Here, we will attempt to shed a stronger light on the features of the two halves that collectively start the world.

Purusha (Man)	Prakriti (Woman)
Spirit of a Person	Matter
Subject – which feels	Object – which is felt
Conscious being	Stimulating environment
Observer	Observation
Inner Reality (Soul)	Outer Reality (Gender/Form)

Purusha is understood as the soul of a person while Prakriti is the mind and the matter. The soul does not have a gender, form or even a name. It travels from one human being to another as a set of clothes. But the Prakriti is the outer reality that is seen by the rest of the world. It takes the form of gender or a form through which it conducts the actions of daily life.

The Essence of Purusha and Prakriti

The Purusha does not change and remains still. The evolution of an individual is based on the spiritual growth of the soul through the actions of the outer self. But overall, its form does not change through time or space. It is the essence that puts life into a body.

On the other hand, the Prakriti keeps changing and evolving. It offers the case for a soul and a medium through which the actions are actually done. Purusha is treated as a perfect thing that does not need to change at all. It is not a part of the world, it is an extension of the Divine and the Parmatma. Prakriti or Nature on the other hand is everything that you see in this world. The Purusha and Prakriti have to interact with each other for the world to work effectively and efficiently.

The ultimate goal of human life is to help in the creation of a balance in nature. Other beings in this world are found lower on the creation ladder. The humans are expected to ensure that other beings are taken care of and the world runs smoothly.

Can Purusha and Prakriti Remain Autonomous?

Although there are statements given that the Prakriti was created by Purusha because of fear and loneliness. But it also means that Purusha cannot survive without Prakriti and vice versa. Each needs the other to survive. They come into being together and cannot remain independent. In order to understand this complex nature in a better manner, you can always look at the different animals and their genders. The relationship between both paves way for new life.

Relativity of Directions with the Two Halves

The learned and enlightened souls in our society have made attempts to explain the relationship between the two. They strongly highlight that the understanding of a Purusha cannot be done without Prakriti as both complement each other. The North and the Right Side are often associated with the Purusha and the Left and the South Directions are related to the Prakriti. The feminine things in nature are all given the connectivity to Prakriti.

The left side was chosen for Prakriti because that is where the heart resides. Emotions and passion signify feminism. The right side on the other hand is quiet and represented by the Purusha.

The North side has the Pole star which represents the soul in particular and that is why the side is assigned to Purusha. Prakriti on the other hand is represented by matter that resides in the Southern direction. Similarly, there are several other elements in nature that symbolise the soul and the matter in one way or another. With this, they are given the category of Purusha and Prakriti.

The biological observations of gender – male and female stem out of the same diversification of basic characteristics and who they associate with Purusha and Prakriti.

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Modern Sanatani
November 25, 2025

Types of Karmic Debts and Equity: Balancing Your Spiritual Ledger

In one of the previous posts, we have discussed the importance of good and bad deeds, the characteristics of the different planes and residents of them. It is common knowledge now that the consequences of karma lead you to the deserved destination after birth. In Hinduism, the ancient texts highlight that death is not the end of the journey. It is merely the hit of a reset button. Once a body is too sick or old to host a soul, the soul simply sheds it to move onto the next milestone.

The nature of the milestone is dependent on the karmas that were done by a human being during the course of their life span. Considering the moral dilemmas that we continuously face from time to time, sometimes it becomes difficult to determine which path to take to make sure the action is accounted for in the good karma list. While there is a clarity on some deeds, for others, the dilemma still exists.

For example, if a man is beating his wife day and night, is it ethical or moral for the wife to leave him or should she continue to serve him despite the everyday challenges. A choice arises here – preservation of self or following the Dharma as prescribed in legends and historical texts of the religion? The confusion exists. Free will is given to a human being for a reason. Your moral compass has to decide which path you would like to take forward.

Which Actions Account as Good Karma or Equity?

Keeping the deliberations aside, I bring a small account of some of the typical karmic actions that can incur good karma. The karmic decision is not just based on the action itself but also on the intention behind the action. If your intentions are bad towards a person but you are doing something good, this might also be considered a bad deed.

It is often said that God is a witness to not just the actions but also the thoughts that spike up in the minds of people. In the Bhagwat Geeta, Krishna highlighted that he was the Sakshi of everyone’s mind and walked beside every individual to keep an account of their deeds. So, let’s list down some of the Good Karma (that can help in reducing the debts of the past lives):

Accepting misfortune as the will of God and continue to work hard
Completion of the Duties towards Family members without any attachment or expectation of anything in return
Giving Dakshina or charity without expecting anything in return
Giving gifts to people as a matter of Thanks
Pilgrimage – travelling to the tirth sthan as per the religion. For example – 4 Dhaam, 12 Jyotirlinga, 7 Puris, 51 shakti peethas etc.
Bhakti towards God. There are different Gods in the Hindu religion. As per the liking and personality of an individual, the right kind of God can be chosen.
Puja on a regular basis to the God of choice. Temples can be visited for the same purpose or a temple can be built at home.
Sacrifices through Yagna or offerings to Gods in one form or the other. For example, some people give up drinking, eating meat, bad habits etc.

All the above actions are treated as good karma as God expects humans to walk on the right path of life conduct. The more we upheld Dharma, the more we are walking towards the path of incurring good equity.

Which Actions Account as Bad Karma or Debt?

While you should be aware of the good karma, you must also be aware of the bad karma that can cause you to incur debts. Sometimes it can take several lives or rebirths to clear the bad karma futuristically. If a conscious effort is made, bad karma can be avoided. It can also help in escaping the Narka after death.

Let’s grab a look at some of the most common bad karma that are listed in our ancient texts. You can easily find a reference to the lists in Puranas and more specifically the Garuda Purana. I have gone through several texts and books to bring a gist of the list here.

Enjoying life without thinking about hard work, consequences and ignoring responsibilities towards family or the community as a whole.
Caressing your Ego through actions
Ambition that causes harm to others
Greed towards money or other materialistic things while causing harm to other people
Dominating other people without thinking about their needs and forcing people to submit to you
People who commit sexual crimes
Adultery, rape, leaving a spouse or engaging in any activity that causes harm to the partner
Indulging in bad habits like alcoholism and ignoring of responsibilities towards home and family
Selfishness. For example, denial of food, water, hospitality and respect to the guests.
Oppressors, dictators, mass murderers, serial killers etc.
Individuals who torture or mistreat animals. Also, people who disrespect the earth and the fruits that sprout from it.

If you really want to really love yourself and would love to take a step forward in your spiritual growth, now is the time to know everything that you can. One step in the right direction can go a long way. Make it a lifestyle to incur good karma on a regular basis. A conscious effort made by a person can really help in improving your odds and making your future lives much easier. Eventually, you will be able to live in the heavens and lead a moral life.

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Has it happened to you that listening or reading a question forces you to go deeper and find the answer about yourself or the world in general? It happens to most of us! For me, the questions related to life, reality, spirituality and the universe lead to in-depth thinking and introspection. I have always tried to comprehend the meaning of one’s life, the purpose and what is reality actually? There are several scientific and ancient findings/scriptures with strong data points that often cause me to take a deep dive into readings that can enlighten me on questions that keep me up at night.

In this section, I shall do the same to you! I have come up with a list of a few questions that will force you to think more about yourself and the world that we live in. Start right here:

What is the origin of thoughts?
If you lose everything that is important to you, like love, job, health, money, relationships etc., which is the one or more things that are going to sustain you? Which aspects will still motivate you to keep living?
Which is that one place or space in your life that gives you complete peace of mind in one form or the other?
Do you believe that you existed for a greater purpose in this world? If not, what if you started believing that?
Which part of your personality is ready to be a better version of you – today, tomorrow or may be one year later?
Did you know, every thought, action and feeling has a timeless ripple effect? There is definitive evidence to support this theory. (Read the book Secret of Secrets by Dan Brown to know more about manifestation and scientific experimentations to prove this).
Are you peacefully co-existing with uncertainty in life? How are you doing that?
What is reality according to you? Based on ancient readings, it is said that – Reality is that which never changes. Ask yourself, since everything evolves and changes in one form or another, then what is reality?
Even as adults, we have beliefs that originate out of our childhood. What if your childhood was different? Would you have been a different person? If yes, then how?
What is stopping you from making that one big change or taking that one big leap that would change the course of your future for the better?

All these questions are nothing but a way to help you question everything that you believe in. It’s time to ask the difficult questions and change the way you think. In this brand-new world filled with uncertainties due to AI overtake, Wars, Energy Crises and much more, it is for us humans to take a leap forward one by one to collectively make an effort towards a better world.

If you are not ready to make a change within, it can be impossible to change the world around you. If not the world, think about the next generation that we are welcoming into our society. Do you want them to have the same beliefs like you were taught? For example, would you tell your daughter that we live in a patriarchal world and she has to do everything that the husband tells her to do? No.. Right?

This is the difference between you and I. I have asked myself some difficult questions and improved my perspective in life. It’s time for you to do the same.. Get your beliefs right, teach the next generation better and think what you can do to make a difference in the society and the world around us. Sitting idle in front of the TV or working a corporate job like a robot may not be a viable option for long!

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Every individual carries beliefs that shape how we ourselves and the world in general. The majority of the beliefs come from our friends or family members. They are cemented in our character and the way of thinking from early childhood. While some of these beliefs empower us, others quietly limit our growth. It can sometimes be difficult to identify the ones that are actually causing the limitation in the first place.

Before you identify them through the following questions, make sure you are ready to be honest to yourself. Once you are, you will be better equipped to make changes to your life.

So, let’s start with the first step to transformation which is awareness — asking the right questions to uncover the beliefs that hold us back.

The 10 Reflective Questions about Beliefs that you need to Ask Yourself are:

1. What do I believe about my worth?

You will be surprised to know – many people do not feel they are worthy of love, abundance and success. This feeling often stems out of consistent criticism while growing up. So, ask yourself, do you feel you are worthy of everything good that happens to you?

Everyone is worthy of receiving good things in life. Don’t let anyone make you believe otherwise!

2. Which fears keep repeating in my mind?

Fears are often sprouted from experiences during childhood. Sometimes, they are rooted in listening to bad experiences of people around you. Ask yourself, are you right to be fearful of a particular thing or is it just a perception made in your mind to avoid risks associated with anything new.

3. Do I believe change is possible for me?

Many people hate change. Even if it is the smallest change in their life, the idea of making a change can be filled with loads of anxieties. You keep thinking of all the bad things that might happen if the change happens. But have you ever stopped and thought that change can be beautiful as well?

Stop thinking that people like you cannot change or do something powerful. It is actually very easy if you put your mind to it. So, don’t let this belief hold you back. Don’t let the perceptions of friends and family members impact your life or choices.

4. What stories from my past still define me?

A person is a consequence of the experiences they have had in the past. Whether it is from your childhood or teenage years, there may be several stories told to you from people around you. Sometimes, there are wounds caused by loved ones that don’t let you grow the way you would want. Self-doubt and the consistent ringing of their words from the past may limit your beliefs about yourself.

Ask yourself, are you clinging to the old wounds caused by people? If yes, its time to let go. It’s time to believe in yourself once again. Do not let the perceptions of people in the past define your future. It is often the insecurities or personal issues of people that they tend to lash out at others.

5. Do I equate failure with being a failure?

The smallest of a failure may cause you to believe that you cannot achieve anything else in your life. Ask yourself, do you like all types of chairs or cushions? No, right! How can one failure define your incompetence about everything else?

It is not essential that you would be good at everything that you do. Keep trying new things. You might have failed at one, but the possibility of success in another is high. Your learnings from the previous failures might just be the fuel you need to succeed in the next. Ask yourself – How do I interpret setbacks in my journey?

6. What do I believe about money and success?

The thought process of a person about money and success might be a big cause of a limitation in life. If you are secure about both, you are more likely to take risks. If you do not, taking even the smallest risk might cause discomfort. Before you move ahead, ask yourself – Do I see them as scarce, corrupting, or unattainable? Your answer might be the belief that is holding you back.

7. Do I believe I must please others to be accepted?

Over time, when you have faced enough rejections in life, especially from friends or family members, you might work extra hard to feel accepted and loved. Sometimes, the dislike from even one person might feel depressing. Ask yourself – How much of my energy is spent on external validation?

It’s not possible to be liked by everyone. Have a set of beliefs and principles in life and stick to them. If your decisions are constantly going to be inspired by what others think about you, success might never knock at your door. You will always be fearful of making someone angry. This eventually leads to giving up on opportunities.

8. What labels have I accepted about myself?

It is very easy for people to criticise others and give labels that might not be entirely true. Are there some labels given to you by people that you have accepted as a part of your identity? Are they actually what define you? If not, it’s time to chuck them out of the park and take hold of your life.

Some examples you might have given yourself like – “I’m not creative,” “I’m bad at math,” “I’m unlucky.” It’s ok to have such perceptions sometimes based on previous experiences. But have you tried to break the chains? Try and the labels will be meaningless.

9. Do I believe happiness is conditional?

Are you waiting for the perfect time to be happy in life? Or were you led to believe that happiness can only be felt if you have an achievement to celebrate? The perfect moment may never come! Happiness is a choice and it’s for you to decide when you want to be happy and which things will make you happy.

10. What belief would I have to let go of to feel free?

If I dropped one limiting thought today, how would life change? Ask yourself – which is that one thought or belief that you need to let go in order to make yourself feel free and ready to take on any challenge in life.

Wrapping Up

Beliefs are powerful lenses. When they limit us, they become invisible chains. By asking these questions, you begin to see the chains clearly — and once seen, they can be broken. Transformation starts not with changing the world outside, but with reshaping the beliefs within.

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Life Coaching
December 22, 2025

The Path to Self-Improvement: Leaving the Past, Trauma and Old Wounds Behind

Have you ever experienced trauma or life events that have completely changed/shaken you, to the core of your being?

Do you relive every scene of that event or have regrets about the way it happened?

Of course you do, that is precisely the reason you are here.

You are fed up with feeling the way you do.. You are here to finally step out of the trauma and transform yourself in a positive manner.

Past events in a lifetime have the capability to haunt people for the rest of their lives. Dealing with them can be a challenge, especially if you do not have guidance in your life. In my experience, bad experiences can define your entire personality futuristically.

Whether those experiences were with friends, family, relatives or partners, every situation is recalled by the brain whenever a similar event occurs. Reliving the trauma is very normal. In fact, it becomes hard for a person to place their trust in the success of new relationships. This response is nothing but a coping mechanism and an automatic way of protecting oneself.

But, is it fair to treat everyone in the same way without giving them a chance to prove their loyalty? Do not let your past experiences be an obstacle in a possibly happy life.

Every individual is different. In fact, some people evolve and change into better human beings over the course of their lives. Are you putting in the effort that is needed to evolve yourself as well?

The past can be daunting and cause severe lifelong pain if it is not dealt with in the right manner. If the thought of hiring a life coach or a therapist troubles you, then I bring you some simple ways to deal with the past.

I have had some really traumatic experiences with not just partners but also family members. The toxicity and personality of people we love can cause severe distress. In the majority of the cases, we keep getting disrespected and hurt because of the undying love we have for them. But eventually, I realised I have to fend for myself. Are you ready to do that too?

Here are some proven strategies that can really help you take that one step towards evolution and becoming a better version of yourself. Break the shackles of yesterday and move towards a brighter and happier future.

Step 1: Acknowledge the Trauma and Events in the Past

The first step is the most difficult one. Progress comes at a price. Transformation demands you to take a hard look at yourself and begin the tough road to success.

So, do not suppress your feelings. Identify the experiences that have shaped your personality. Take account of both positive and negative aspects of yourself and their roots.

Secondly, accept whatever happened as it is. You cannot change what has already happened in the past. But the time to accept it is NOW! You might not have liked it but its existence cannot be denied.

Step 2: Change the Narrative you Tell Yourself

When you recall the previous experiences/events, change what you tell yourself. Rather than using words like – This happened to me…, it’s time to tell yourself – The experience taught me to…

This is not a one-time process. You are rewiring your brain. So, whenever the thoughts come to your mind, make an effort to change the narrative. It will give you the confidence you need to stand straight.

If thinking is not doing the trick, write it down. As many times as you need to, but write it in your journal and change the way you think.

Step 3: Forgiveness

Step 3 is one of the biggest challenges in this path to transformation. Forgiveness does not come easy and it may take you a while to actually do this. But, remember that you are doing it for yourself only.

Forgiveness does not mean that you are ready to forget. It’s about acceptance and getting rid of the emotional hold that the events have on you. It will bring you the much desired peace.

Think of it this way – Everyone has flaws. You have yours too. You are forgiving others for their flaws and accepting them as they are. You would want others to do the same for you.

Step 4: Positive and New Habits

By this time, you have already identified the values that you want to shape your personality. Free from the shackles of the past, you can now be the person who you want to be. So, it is time to reject the old and bad habits and introduce the ones that resonate with you and your personality primarily.

It does not have to be big. Small habits every day can have a big impact in the long run. Some examples of the new habits can be – mindfulness, journaling, meditation, listing your blessings, mapping out your goals etc.

Step 5: Form Goals for Yourself

Becoming a better version of yourself can only come with planning and formation of goals from all perspectives. For example – spiritual goals, professional goals, personal development or emotional stages.

There are many different ways of goal-setting for yourself. One of the most common frameworks used is SMART which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-Bound.

If you don’t want to dive into too many specifications or make too big goals that can seem overwhelming, I advise having daily goals or weekly goals. Start small and we can build the rest together. For example, you can have a goal of meditating for 5 mins a day or start a new course on Udemy with a focus of completing one video a day.

Start with baby steps. Change in your personality will not happen overnight. Do not measure your progress from the lens of others.

Your speed and your journey is entirely your own. It has nothing to do with anyone else.

Step 6: Make Relationships that are Good for you

The best thing that happened to me was creating boundaries. I broke relationships with people who hurt me, misused me or caused me traumas. If you cannot do this, then introduce new people who are positive for you. People who will help you grow in a positive manner.

Get new friends who have the same kinds of interests as you. You can even get mentors, coaches or professionals who will support you with a positive outlook in life. Slowly reduce interactions with people who have the ability to cause you pain or make you relive the trauma.

So, are you ready to leave your past and trauma behind? If the above information seems too overwhelming for you, connect with me and let me help you break down the barriers. Let’s start this journey. You are answerable to your future self and nothing can be achieved without taking one step forward, even if it is a tiny one. It took me years.. Learn from my experiences and become better in no time.

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Its time to change the old pattens and take control of your life. With me, you can expect a confidential and improved session that will help you heal the past and work towards your future. You can book a free discovery call for 30 minutes with me and let us explore your hidden problems. Its time to change the world around you. Book your slot now – https://calendly.com/mitaliaggarwalr/30min

Life Coaching
December 9, 2025

Live Authentically: Discover Why Self-Knowledge, Values, and Virtues Matter Most

Since time immemorial, our values and virtues have primarily depended on our family values or the thought processes of the people around us. If you want to advance in your life and career, it’s time to break the age old patterns and dive into the world of YOU! Never apologise for being different and understanding the authenticity that separates you from the rest of the world.

Authentic living and depth comes with self-knowledge. It is not just about introspection and understanding yourself but also having clarity about the values that will define your next move in life. Whether it is from the professional perspective or personal, having a set of values can make your feet feel stronger on the earth. You will be confident enough to take on any challenge that is thrown at you.

Every individual was born different with a unique skill. You can get an advantage in life only if you understand what is different about you. In this article, I have made an attempt to bring you face-to-face with the reason why you need to know yourself.

Why Self-Knowledge is Critical?

Self Worth:

It helps with building your confidence to a big extent. Embracing your real self can reduce the impact of criticism on your personality. Also, it can help you decrease the amount of negativity that you spread around you. Self-talk will become positive automatically.

Confidence in Action:

When your actions are driven by the values that resonate with you, confidence levels will skyrocket immediately. Your inner compass will tell you what is right and wrong. With a reduced confusion, your actions will be confident. Integrity will be predominant in your lifespan as well.

Get Clarity and Identify Yourself:

Having self-knowledge and awareness can help you map out your strengths, weaknesses, emotional status and much more. When you are honest with yourself, you get immense clarity. Coming face-to-face with yourself, being self-critical and understanding your true being can help you get the clarity that will help you break the vicious cycle of failures.

Resilience:

There is no human being in the world who does not have to go through a certain number of challenges in life. Life will inevitably give you a taste of one or more failures. But when you have strong inner values, it will not be easy for life’s challenges to shake you. For example, if you are confident about your skills and capabilities, losing a job will never create a panic.

Compassion:

I have often seen that compassion comes naturally to people who are deeply aware about themselves. When I talk about awareness, I am talking about the weaknesses and failures. When you are kind to yourself and accept failures as a part and parcel of life, you automatically become more compassionate towards other people and the world as a whole.

Get Freedom from Conditioning:

As kids, we are raised in a certain way. Most of it depends on the parents, grandparents, relatives, friends etc. When you can create a clear demarcation between the expectations of the society/family and your true self, you can break from the conditioning that limits your actions. For example, you will be able to take more risks in life and bet on yourself when you are confident about what you believe in. And the majority of the time, risks are transformed into success.

Patience and Humility:

A well-aware human being will understand that patience is the key to success. When you are moving in the right direction, fear will be limited. You will be patient because you know the steps that are needed to be taken to achieve your dreams. This also turns out to develop humility. As we see the large canvas that God has painted, we see ourselves as mere brush strokes. With humility comes the confidence that is needed to take on the world and leave a mark for yourself.

Keep reading and stay tuned for a guide that will help you discover the best ways of knowing yourself more deeply.

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Life Coaching
October 10, 2025

The 8 Core Foundations of Healthy Relationships: A Guide to Emotional Intelligence & Trust

You need to work on building and nurturing a strong and healthy relationship throughout your life. If you can understand and integrate the 8 pillars that form the cornerstone of a relationship, nothing can stop you from having a fulfilled and happy life. Humans are social beings, and bonding with loved ones is essential for their well-being–physical, mental, emotional, and psychological. Here’s a quick look at the most crucial aspects of all relationships, whether family, personal, professional, or romantic.

Love

Love is the emotional connection you sense with a family member, romantic partner, or close friend. You may have heard about the adage: Love will set you free. It may sound cheesy, but it’s actually true. Being able to love and be loved by someone allows you to relax and be yourself, without having to maintain a mask. You can present your true self without fear of judgment and rejection. That is the first step toward a happier life.

Honour

Honour is the next pillar of a strong relationship since it’s all about respecting your partner or loved one. Respect each other’s individuality, boundaries, opinions, and thought processes. Accept that you may not think alike and share the same interests, but accepting the other person just as they are, without pushing them to agree with you all the time, is crucial. It’s how you build lasting bonds.

Self-Control

Self-control requires effort, and it’s not always easy to do the right thing. Self-control is watching your words, actions, and behaviour to be respectful of your partner, colleagues, or family members. Be kind, and before saying or doing something, think of how that will impact the other person and your relationship with them. Self-control can also be about stopping yourself from being disrespectful, even when your loved one is not present.

Responsibility

Being responsible in your relationship is another of the core pillars. Whatever may be the dynamics of your relationship–work-related, family-related, or as friends, be ready to step up and shoulder your share of the tasks before you. Be committed, and when you take the responsibility for a task, make sure you complete it without making excuses. Being dependable is also taking responsibility. If a loved one asks for help or you offer it, make sure you follow through with real action–no excuses.

Truth

Being truthful is a critical cornerstone of your relationship. Always be honest in your dealings with the people close to you. Many people seem to think that a small lie here and there won’t matter. The fact of the matter is–it absolutely does! Mainly because constant lies erode relationships and betray trust. Your loved ones will have a hard time believing anything you say, and it raises questions about your credibility and integrity. Being dependable allows people to believe in you.

Faith

Any relationship is built on a strong foundation of trust. You can’t be suspicious of people all the time, but give them space by believing in them. Have faith in their bond with you. Never sink into the pattern of questioning their motives and asking questions about every word and action. That’s how you’ll build a secure foundation for a deeper connection.

Understanding

When you can demonstrate that you understand your loved one’s thoughts and feelings, it makes them feel closer to you. When spending time together, listen. And, by that I mean, genuinely listen, not just with your ears, but with your heart. Try to view situations from the other person’s perspective, offering compassion, sympathy, and unconditional support.

Communication

Conflicts and disagreements are a regular part of every relationship. We’re humans, and a difference of opinion can sometimes tear apart even the strongest of relationships. Don’t let that happen to you. The solution is very simple–communication. A heart-to-heart conversation in a safe environment can resolve even the most complex conflicts. Listen, understand, and offer your perspective. Then, find a middle ground to move forward. That’s how you’ll save the relationship and strengthen it.

Humans are highly evolved emotional creatures, but that also makes our relationships very complex. But to secure and strengthen a relationship, you need to work on it. It’s how you demonstrate that the other person is valuable to you. Use these 8 pillars to create a new, robust foundation for every relationship in your life, and watch it thrive.

Also read: Six Pillars of an Effective Life Coaching Process

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The 10 Reflective Questions about Beliefs that you need to Ask Yourself are:

Step 1: Acknowledge the Trauma and Events in the Past

Step 2: Change the Narrative you Tell Yourself

Step 3: Forgiveness

Step 4: Positive and New Habits

Step 5: Form Goals for Yourself

Step 6: Make Relationships that are Good for you

Why Self-Knowledge is Critical?

Change Starts with a Single Step

**3. Live Consciously (Ahinsa & *Prakriti***)